Access the Power of Your Mind, cont.

Back at home, Charles had developed an out-of-control gambling habit, to the point where a huge loss left him hiding in the house for fear of being killed. While at home, Charles refused to cook for the kids, or take care of the house or yard; that was all "woman's work."

So, in addition to her full time career and being responsible for paying most of the bills, Mindy also took care of the house, the yard, and the kids. However, Charles still bossed Mindy around and made all decisions. Mindy wondered, "How can I have authority as a lawyer, when at home, I'm treated like a child?"

One night, as she sat in her meditation corner, eyeing the flame of a single candle, she heard an inner voice, clear as day. It was the kind of revelation that made the hairs on the back of her neck stand up..."You will never grow up as long as you're living with Charles."

After her epiphany in front of the candle, Mindy repeated to Charles the words she had heard, not even grasping their full implication. At this point in her life, she did not have the courage to stand up to him! Charles hit the roof. He tried to intimidate her by threatening to leave the children's lives forever. The threat angered Mindy, and actually gave her courage. She held firm. That very night, Charles moved out.

At first, Mindy was overcome with panic and endured countless sleepless nights. Even though she had been paying most of the bills, the thought of not having Charles to turn to, scared her. Having gone from her parent’s home directly to Charles’ home, she had never been solely responsible for anything in her life. Complicating the matter, Charles, who was still furious, was trying to turn the twins against her by saying things like, “Everything was perfect until your mother ruined it by breaking up the family.”

Having gained inner strength and confidence through the martial arts, however, Mindy next discovered the work of Louise Hay, an author who promoted the idea that your thoughts create your future. By changing one's thoughts, or inner world, one could change one's outer world. She put Louise Hay's theory to the test...

Mindy was chronically late for court. Although she always seemed to have a good excuse, the truth was that she resented her husband for having pushed her into this career, and she did not want to be there. Showing up late was her way of getting back at him.

She realized that just as her criminal clients blamed everybody for the state of their lives, she too, had spent her adult life blaming her husband for her job. It was time for her to claim her own power.

Using Louise Hay's affirmation techniques, Mindy began a daily practice of saying, "I am in the right place at the right time, doing the right thing." She also decided to quit pretending to be something she wasn't. Being a pit bull was not a part of her character. Neither was it truly in her character to represent hardened criminals.

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